I realized what loving means.... and it’s a choice to let go!

Much has been said and done, and it’s the LOVE month. huh! What more can I say? So i jot down my thoughts and realizations about my whirlwind and at the same time life changing experiences.

It is indeed true, loving is not about achieving happiness, it’s really taking the risk. Taking the risk of investing your feeling and emotion to a total stranger, without any assurance that he’s going to take care of it. Putting your heart at risk of getting hurt and worst, broken.

My heart is still bleeding..searching for answers but all I can do is just trust and have faith that everything happens for a reason.  For the past few days that I have been asking myself, I realized few more things about loving.  What it entails when you found love that’s true and real. If you love someone, ask for nothing. Don’t hold him from his destiny. Don’t keep him far going off in search of his own answers. Don’t ask him for commitment. You will know when commitment is real when it is something given willingly, and not as something obligatory. Don’t ask him for promises. If you are patient, if you have faith, you will know in your heart when the right time for promises to come. And when that time arrives, you will see that you both  lost nothing by setting each other free and have instead gained a richer, fuller life, a wealth of experiences, and a stronger certainty of desires

But should he not return to you, then life hasn't cheated you because no promises were broken. Your bitterness will not last long, and you will feel thankful and blessed at the very least, this beautiful soul has colored your life, that knowing him has already made life infinitely more meaningful.

By setting a person free, you run a risk of him not returning. But always remember, that you found him beautiful precisely because he was free.  People are like sunlight. You can feel their warmth, and their glow, but you can’t hold them in your hand keep them forever.  People choose to stay. But a choice is made more meaningful when it is made despite many other options.

For those who have loved and have to let go, be proud of yourself. You have made a brave choice! TO LOVE YOURSELF.